Unless you’ve hidden under a rock for the past week, you have already heard that Dez Bryant was arrested for assaulting his own mother. And as shocking as his arrest was to his fans, this despicable behavior is hardly unusual among Black males who are raised by single mothers.
- 14 Year old Joshua Smith kills his 36-year-old, sickly, mother Tamiko Robinson with a shotgun because she wouldn’t let him join a gang. (Detroit, Michigan)
- 16 Year old Kendall Anderson kills 37-year-old mom Rashida Anderson with a hammer for taking away Playstation.(Philadelphia, PA)
- 16 Year old Kit Durant stabbed 35-year-old mother, Rennette Emile, to death, because she scolded him about staying out late the night before. (Miami, FL)
I have written this post for all the Black women and young girls who may be suckered into believing that raising OOW children alone is a viable alternative to marrying a quality man first, and having children later. I know there is literally a chorus of women and men pushing OOW parenting as a great idea for Black women, claiming that single parenthood is equal in position and practicality to a stable two-parent home. 🙄
The women and men who promote OOW parenting never want to discuss the limited amount of time and energy that a single working mother has to spend on a child, nor the fact that most of the stay-at-home mothers of OOW children are being financially supported by tax payers, and some women are only having children to avoid working for a living. We’re not supposed to discuss that.
You must realize that the men who are applauding this non-sense want you to remain single and available to be their, or some other Black man’s, sperm dumpster. Also, as the sole parent, they can blame you, and BW in general, for how badly the Black children they’ve chosen to abandon turn out. The women who are already on that road, and have no plausible excuse for being there, want company. They want to be able to say, “Look at [you]! She’s a baby mama too.” They already say “White people do it too!” as if that somehow validates this foolishness.
I should probably admit right now that I despise the phrase “White people do it too”. Anytime I am in a room or vehicle with one or more AA – and there are no White people in sight, and I say that someone Black should stop doing something detrimental to their health and well-being (smoking, for example), that phrase almost ALWAYS leaves someone’s lips. My response: So what? If White people bathed in gasoline and set themselves on fire would that make it something AA should aspire to as well? I think not.
I know that there are millions of women who are already in this position, some through no fault of their own. If you are a divorcee or a widow, it should be obvious that I am not talking about you. But if you are among those promoting single parenthood, to the next generation of BW, you should be ashamed of yourself!
Despite what some like to claim, the status of a single mom who has never been married to the father of her children is in no way equal to being a single mother who is widowed or divorced.
Don’t believe me? Just ask someone who had unmarried parents and their father married someone else later on. I know a few people who grew up in this situation, and their father’s relatives did not treat them like “real family”. They were always held at arm’s length, if at all. BUT the legitimate offspring of their father’s wife were welcomed, loved and fawned over. Even the ones who bore no resemblance to anyone on either sides of their supposed gene pools. This is the reality of illegitimacy in AA culture.
It is important for AA women who are planning to have and raise children without the full support and involvement of that child’s father (which every child is due, whether their mother thinks she needs his help or not), to understand the position that they are placing themselves and their children in.
Also, and more importantly, African-American culture is extremely dysfunctional. What makes it so dysfunctional is that the male population (no matter how old) are widely considered blameless — no matter how degenerate and evil their actions, whereas the female population (no matter how young) are widely considered guilty — even when their only sin is being born with a vagina.
Bringing children, especially male children, into this type of dysfunctional anti-BW culture without a respectable, responsible and loving father is a recipe for disaster. You must also recognize that, because AA culture is extremely anti-BW, most children of Black single mother’s harbor a conscious, or subconscious, suspicion that their mother somehow ran their father off merely by being a BW.
I’m sure some will argue that the actions of Dez Bryant and the boys who murdered their mothers in cold blood are rare and unusual, which may be true. But these types of incidents are on the rise. They are rising right along with the rate of OOW births in the African-American community. A coincidence? I think not.
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