Is it just me, or does it seem like a large and vocal group of people are even more determined than ever to convince American women and young girls that female promiscuity is “natural” and preferable?
These people are on television, radio and the internet pushing their ‘spread your legs by date three or you’re a bitch’ philosophy. There is rarely, if ever, mention any of the consequences. And the consequences go beyond unwanted children and STDs. The emotional devastation that can be wrought by casual sex is either dismissed or avoided.
Many television shows and pop psychologist promote the idea that having sex with someone you barely know will benefit you in some way. These benefits are usually buzz words that have no meaning in reality.
The internet is littered with articles claiming that Casual Sex has no negative emotional consequences. Just one example: Hooray! Casual Sex Doesn’t Cause Any Kind of Emotional Damage by Emily Tan. The study referenced simply asks if their most recent sexual partner(s) are committed or casual. “…their emotional state was no different from respondents who said they were in committed relationships during their last sexual encounter.” Big deal. The people who considered the sex casual weren’t upset about the sex being casual. That’s a shocker. What about the folks they had the sex with? Did they interview them? I doubt it.
I think one commenter on that post said it best: “That doesn’t prove that casual sex doesn’t cause emotional damage. It just shows that for that group, in the short term, it didn’t alter their emotional state. It doesn’t speak to factors like, say… how many people have self-selected out of having casual sex because for them it proved to be damaging. I’d be interested to see a long-term study that watched people as they started having casual sex and see where that led.” ~E.
There is no legitimate way for them to determine if the respondents claim that it is “casual sex” and nothing more would have an emotional effect on the other party. A one-sided study like this is typical. If they had to interview both parties in-depth these “social scientists” would discover things that they do not wish to know. For the other party, the sex might have been considered, if not serious, at least a stepping stone to a serious relationship. I have never known anyone who wanted to be regarded as a “casual screw”. This includes men, believe it or not.
The fact of the matter is many women are convinced that they can sex their way into a man’s heart. This belief is reinforced by the media and friend of a friend of a friend “love stories”. While here in reality, the woman is judged as unfit for love and marriage because she did exactly as instructed by the pop psychologists, dating gurus, and even the men she had sex with.
Many men consider how fast they can convince a woman to spread her legs for them a test of her character and suitability as a wife and mother. As hypocritical as that sounds and is, I have come across many men who think this way. The emotional consequences for women who do as they are told, and as a result are cast aside as trash, can be devastating. Most of the promiscuous women I know (not all) are essentially alone. This is not a coincidence.
Many of these women end up bitter about men and romantic relationships. Their ability to trust others, including other women, is greatly wounded. When you are happy and in love, these are the killjoy friends who want you to notice every blemish and the potentially receding hair of your new man. It’s very sad, but completely preventable.
Emotional damage is personal, but it affects everyone you come into contact with, and everyone they come into contact with. But the other consequences of sexual promiscuity are even farther reaching. The whole of our society is being affected by the very steep downside of casual sex – unwanted/fatherless children and an increase in Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs/STIs). At the moment, I would say that fatherlessness is the greatest threat to OUR culture – present and future. It’s currently doing far more damage than STDs, outsourcing, illegal immigration, and racism combined.
Just two examples:
City Without Fathers: Behind Newark’s epidemic violence are its thousands of fatherless children by Steven Malanga. A quote from the article: “It isn’t that traditional families are breaking up; they aren’t even getting started. The city has one of the highest out-of-wedlock birthrates in the country, with about 65 percent of its children born to unmarried women. And 70 percent of those births are to women who are already poor, meaning that their kids are born directly into poverty.”
CRIME & FATHERLESS AMERICA by Steven LeBlanc. A quote from the article: “The overarching reason there is so much crime is because increasingly children are growing up in homes without their biological fathers. This outcome means many children and teens then join gangs (a pseudo-family).
“Divorce and out of wedlock births is creating a subculture of angry teens. In America nearly 24 million children live in a home without a father to guide and protect them. Now more than half of all births to American women under 30 are born out of wedlock, and the trend in marriage-less birth is becoming a normal reality of American life.”
And it’s not just happening here, in America. Across the pond… “The London riots have simply reconfirmed and graphically illustrated what the social sciences have been telling us for a half century now: when we allow society to disregard the institution of marriage and in fact assault the institution of family, we are asking for – and will get – trouble.
“The social science evidence on this is as overwhelming as it is clear: by every indicator, children will be worse off when not raised in a biological two-parent family. They will be more likely to do less well at school, to become involved in drugs, to commit suicide, to have a range of mental and psychological problems, and to get involved in gangs and criminal activity.
“ThusThis has been documented so thoroughly now that only an ideologue who is pushing agendas can deny the evidence.” (Fatherlessness and Violence | Culture Watch) I could not agree with the author more.
Those in the media must be aware of the consequences of what they are promoting, so why continue to do it? What do they hope to get out of it? What is the endgame, so to speak? And why the hard sell? Whatever their reasons, make no mistake ladies, there is an agenda to make female promiscuity not just commonplace but something to aspire to…. Like Brazilian waxes.
Formerly the domain of porn stars, strippers and prostitutes, Brazilian waxes are now mainstream, despite the fact that they are extremely painful and completely unnecessary. I know women who have gone from having bikini waxes to Brazilians simply because they felt “left out.”
You have to wonder at the ingenuity of those marketing the concept of grown women completely removing ALL of their pubic hair, so that their genital area looks like that of a prepubescent child. There’s no rational reason for it, yet it has become big business all over the United States. It occurred to me the other day that I first heard about Brazilian waxes on Sex & the City as a teen. Soon after, other TV shows began mentioning or showing likeable characters going to spas to have the procedure done.
Unless you are one of the rare few who do not own a television or watch movies, even online, you know that the same PR campaign is already underway with female sexual promiscuity. The titles say it all – Friends With Benefits, No Strings Attached, etcetera. Even “family” movies promote the idea of love and marriage being the possible end result of one-night stands. One example: Just Go With It, which was rated PG-13. On TV it’s become standard for characters to get married after an initial one-night stand: Friends, Sex & the City and Grey’s Anatomy, are popular examples.
I have to admit, it is a good strategy. The easiest way to convince someone (especially someone young) that a questionable behavior is acceptable is to have someone they like / admire promote it as a positive. What is most dangerous, is that this propaganda is being proudly championed by many feminists – male and female, who claim that female sexual promiscuity is “empowering”. There’s even a new term for this type of feminist thought: Slut Feminism. This is why competent parenting is so very important.
I was raised to believe that no sensible woman offers the gateway to her womb to any man she is not a) in love with, b) committed to and c) certain would make a good father for any possible child(ren) that could result from the encounter. I know some folks consider that type of reasoning “old-fashioned” or “corny”; I just consider it common sense. A way for women to safeguard their wombs and their future prospects, which have never (in all of Human history) been improved by illegitimate children, STDs or emotional issues that prevent romantic attachment. Call me a prude if you like, but I do not want to raise my future children in a Brave New World where sex has no more significance than a limp handshake. Do you?
At some point, the purveyors of the “casual sex is empowering to women” myth are going to have to own up to fact that they are not just compromising the morality, but the safety and long-term stability, of American women, children and men with their hogwash.