For the last few months I have noticed a rise in propaganda designed to convince BW of their undesirability. This propaganda comes in many forms: social “science” surveys/ studies are the most popular, followed by articles on why you should worry that every non-BM that approaches you is only interested in your vagina (you know, because no other group of women have one), followed by articles on why BW should give unemployed, uneducated, ex-cons “a chance”, and if you don’t you are a “gold digging bitch”, followed by articles and videos on why BW are so evil and/or unattractive. Do I even need to mention rap “music”?
You may laugh and ask, who cares? Who would believe this nonsense?
Based on what I’ve seen, heard and read on several blogs, many impressionable young BW are believing it. Some of the older ones too. From what I can tell, these women started off with insecurity and self-esteem issues and the propaganda reinforced those feelings.
It’s hardly surprising when you consider that most BW are not exactly nurtured in the deeply misogynistic and colorist “Black Community”, nor American society at large. So, I completely understand why these women would fall for the okey doke.
For those of us who had great childhoods, filled with love, healthy male attention and positive reinforcement, the League of BW Haters will have to devise a different set of tricks. The BM anti-BW hate speech never worked on us, and is on a downward spiral even among less resistant BW, in fact it’s had the opposite of its intended effect and merely opened the eyes of many blindly loyal BW. Now, the LBWH is using BW (under the guise of “science” or religion) to throw us all under the proverbial bus, and convince us to surrender our lives, happiness, freedom, well-being and self-respect to the Black collective. Of course, since they are doing it in the name of “science” or God that makes it okay. I’ll give you the perfect example:
There’s a post on Beyond Black and White – Examining the Trend: The REAL Reasons Why Black Women and White Men Are Not Hooking Up (feel free to Google it) in which they discuss a study with a miniscule sampling of WM participants (134), none of whom had ever had a personal relationship of any kind with a BW, yet were asked their opinion of BW, in regards to romantic relationships, based on socialized racist stereotypes of BW. The conclusion, as I’m sure you can guess, is that most of these 134 WM were not interested in having a relationship with BW because they were too ignorant/lazy to make their own judgments about BW based on actually getting to know one individually. BUT they were interested in getting to know our bodies.
I thought the study was ridiculous, as did my husband (who is a WM) when I showed it to him. Based on the comments section, those of us BW in relationships with / marriaged to WM know that this “study” is absolute hogwash, but most of those who have little or no experience with WM or any other non-BM actually believed that the study must be accurate. After all, the person conducting the study is a BW, named Dr. Brittany Chevon Slatton (a social “scientist”). Apparently, that is supposed to make the study legitimate. We’re supposed to believe that an unbelievably tiny sampling can represent tens of millions, and we’re to ignore the fact that NONE of the men had ever personally known any BW. NOT ONE! So all of these men’s knowledge of BW was likely gained from BET, our “friends” in Hollyweird, the “liberal” media, rap “music” and other reliable sources.
To paraphrase one commenter, ‘Any discipline that has the word “science” in its name is not a real science.’ And she’s right, of course. Just ask your average Physicist, Biologist or Chemist.
Despite comments from several WM contradicting the findings of this social “study”, some of the BW commenters were deeply troubled by the “study” and its purported “findings”. This I did find puzzling. It seems to me that if I were going to choose between the opinion of WM who has actually had relationships with BW and WM who have never even been friends with a BW, I’d trust the former. But as I said, the study was conducted by a BW, so the BW reading the study and its “findings” were willing to accept it on that basis alone.
I don’t want to appear to be attacking intellectuals, BUT most that I’ve met are none too bright when it comes to the real world and those of us who inhabit it. And I hate the way they hide behind stats and “logic”. A wise man once said,
“There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies and statistics.” ~Benjamin Disraeli
And if you are of legal drinking age, you have probably already noticed that anything goes in American society (eugenics, racism, genocide, rape) so long as you can claim that there is a “logic” or “scientific reason” behind it.
It really bothers me that most Black women I come across these days, both online and off, believe in statistics like they believe in the Bible/God. What is worse, is that they often believe that their own individual Human lives can and will somehow be dictated by statistics produced and manipulated by others, not their own individual choices, and the quality of people they choose to invite into their lives.
It’s sad to realize how easily discouraged some BW are. And that is the purpose of it all. They want BW to despair and give up. THAT is the endgame of the game being played.
If BW really are all fat, horrible, uneducated, welfare queens, who are incapable of being faithful wives and loving mothers, wouldn’t we already know that about ourselves? Truths tend to be self-evident, even for people in denial. Why have the haters felt it necessary to stage this decades long, and (I imagine) quite expensive, multi-pronged media, entertainment and internet campaign to convince us that we’re less than nothing? Think about it.
I read something a while back. I can’t recall the exact words, but it went something like this, ‘Evil people don’t have to know each other to work together to stop you. ‘ That is definitely what is happening here. Make no mistake about it ladies. We have been targeted. We are considered a threat, and on many levels.
Fortunately, I was not raised in such a way that the LBWH propaganda machine could affect how I see myself and other BW. I know who I am, I know how I am, and there is no one who can convince me that my ethnicity, phenotype or gender make me less Human and worthy of love and respect than anyone else on this planet! My sense of self is the greatest gift that my mother and father could have given me. I will always be grateful to them for that.
I absolutely believe that my self-confidence and self-love are why I have always been lucky in love. I know, based on my own experiences, that if you love you others will find it easy to love you too. And I believe that the opposite also holds true. After all, who knows you better than you? If you believe you are unworthy of love, respect and commitment you have a snow ball’s chance of convincing anyone else. We all create our own reality with thoughts, which become feelings and then actions.
This is the area where many BW, due to circumstances beyond their control, are quite weak. So, this is the area where we, as a group, must strive to improve ourselves. This self-help starts with changing the channel, not clicking that link, closing that web page, turning off that “song” when you know that BW bashing is on its way, AND you must be willing to remove anti-BW haters from your circle of influence. They will do nothing more than damage your sense of self and fill your head with vile, self-defeating thoughts.
Even some non-Blacks have noticed what is going on, and some of the righteous have had the courage to speak out. For example:
Single Black Women: Admire Them and Leave Them Alone. This is my favorite part,
“For society to become concerned with the plight of black women now that black women are succeeding on their own terms would be comical if it weren’t so sad. … The fact that our society is saying black women need to find a good black man to settle down with is an insult.”
I could not agree with the author, Jeff Bolton, more. It’s a great article. If you are pro-BW, you’ll love it as much as I did. 🙂
His post reminded me of the most popular anti-BW strategy. Claiming that 55% of all BW have never been married. I investigated this “study” (which made it into TV news programs and even into respectable print outlets) and discovered that to come to this number, they had used children too young to legally marry in the United States, and women who were married but were now widows or divorced! So, the study was basically bull sh*t designed to convince BW to stop getting “over-educated” (as DBRs like to call it), gainfully employed, starting our own businesses (which are more successful on average than everyone else’s, btw) and concentrate on not being a threat to the egos of insecure BW hating BM, so that they’ll want to marry us in larger numbers. Please, feel free to do your own research on this topic. Knowing what you now know, is that 55% never married stat for BW still believable?
Always question the numbers used in “studies”, as well as the people and intent behind their creation. My number one question when I heard about this study was “why?” Why would anyone care enough to put time, energy and money into investigating the marriage patterns of Black women? Especially successful, highly educated, financially independent BW. What do they hope to get out of it? And why include kids, widows and divorcees among the “never married”? And why encourage BW to only seek BM, if they are so concerned about BW being married? There are nearly 2 million more BW than BM in America, and many of us are not even physically or emotionally attracted to BM, so that’s a bit puzzling. But I suppose it’s part of their game.
The way I see it, if I would not eat or drink something you offered me, I will also not heed your counsel or criticisms. The most important and empowering thing we BW can do for our own emotional well-being and life-long happiness is to simply STOP drinking down the psychological poisons offered to us on a daily basis. Stop letting the LBWH use our minds as their Summer homes. Stop reading, watching and listening to anti-BW propaganda. Even when it’s being promoted by other BW, in the name of “science” and “logic”, or just “keeping it real”. Let the haters kick rocks.